[BugFix] fix tablet writer add chunk when larger than 2GB (backport #51152)

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Why I'm doing:

There two issues now when handle >2GB chunk:

1. starrocks.PTabletWriterAddChunksRequest exceeded maximum protobuf size of 2GB: 4194416177

void serialize_to_iobuf(const T& proto_obj, butil::IOBuf* iobuf) {
    butil::IOBuf tmp_iobuf;
    butil::IOBufAsZeroCopyOutputStream wrapper(&tmp_iobuf);
    proto_obj.SerializeToZeroCopyStream(&wrapper);

SerializeToZeroCopyStream will fail when handle >2GB chunk.

2. In previous pr [BugFix] Fix brpc continuously fail after backend host restart #40229, It introduced a bug about missing set http protocol for BRPC client.

 input_messenger.cpp:96] A message from 172.26.94.64:39672(protocol=baidu_std) is bigger than 2147483648 bytes, the connection will be closed. Set max_body_size to allow bigger messages

What I'm doing:

Fix these two issues:

1. Seperate chunk from protobuf, so SerializeToZeroCopyStream won't fail because of >2GB serialize.
2. Set http protocol for brpc::ChannelOptions when handle >2GB RPC.

What type of PR is this:

• BugFix
• Feature
• Enhancement
• Refactor
• UT
• Doc
• Tool

Does this PR entail a change in behavior?

• Yes, this PR will result in a change in behavior.
• No, this PR will not result in a change in behavior.

If yes, please specify the type of change:

• Interface/UI changes: syntax, type conversion, expression evaluation, display information
• Parameter changes: default values, similar parameters but with different default values
• Policy changes: use new policy to replace old one, functionality automatically enabled
• Feature removed
• Miscellaneous: upgrade & downgrade compatibility, etc.

Checklist:

• I have added test cases for my bug fix or my new feature
• This pr needs user documentation (for new or modified features or behaviors)
  • I have added documentation for my new feature or new function
• This is a backport pr

Bugfix cherry-pick branch check:

• I have checked the version labels which the pr will be auto-backported to the target branch
  • 3.3
  • 3.2
  • 3.1
  • 3.0
  • 2.5

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This is an automatic backport of pull request #51152 done by [Mergify](https://mergify.com). ## Why I'm doing: There two issues now when handle >2GB chunk:

1. starrocks.PTabletWriterAddChunksRequest exceeded maximum protobuf size of 2GB: 4194416177

void serialize_to_iobuf(const T& proto_obj, butil::IOBuf* iobuf) {
    butil::IOBuf tmp_iobuf;
    butil::IOBufAsZeroCopyOutputStream wrapper(&tmp_iobuf);
    proto_obj.SerializeToZeroCopyStream(&wrapper);

SerializeToZeroCopyStream will fail when handle >2GB chunk.

2. In previous pr [BugFix] Fix brpc continuously fail after backend host restart #40229, It introduced a bug about missing set http protocol for BRPC client.

 input_messenger.cpp:96] A message from 172.26.94.64:39672(protocol=baidu_std) is bigger than 2147483648 bytes, the connection will be closed. Set max_body_size to allow bigger messages

What I'm doing:

Fix these two issues:

1. Seperate chunk from protobuf, so SerializeToZeroCopyStream won't fail because of >2GB serialize.
2. Set http protocol for brpc::ChannelOptions when handle >2GB RPC.

What type of PR is this:

• BugFix
• Feature
• Enhancement
• Refactor
• UT
• Doc
• Tool

Does this PR entail a change in behavior?

• Yes, this PR will result in a change in behavior.
• No, this PR will not result in a change in behavior.

If yes, please specify the type of change:

• Interface/UI changes: syntax, type conversion, expression evaluation, display information
• Parameter changes: default values, similar parameters but with different default values
• Policy changes: use new policy to replace old one, functionality automatically enabled
• Feature removed
• Miscellaneous: upgrade & downgrade compatibility, etc.

Checklist:

• I have added test cases for my bug fix or my new feature
• This pr needs user documentation (for new or modified features or behaviors)
  • I have added documentation for my new feature or new function
• This is a backport pr

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Cherry-pick of 1766f02 has failed:

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You are currently cherry-picking commit 1766f02e1d.
  (fix conflicts and run "git cherry-pick --continue")
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Changes to be committed:
	modified:   be/src/exec/tablet_sink_index_channel.cpp
	modified:   be/src/exec/tablet_sink_index_channel.h
	modified:   be/src/service/service_be/internal_service.cpp

Unmerged paths:
  (use "git add/rm <file>..." as appropriate to mark resolution)
	both modified:   be/src/util/brpc_stub_cache.h
	deleted by us:   be/src/util/internal_service_recoverable_stub.cpp
	deleted by us:   be/src/util/internal_service_recoverable_stub.h

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@mergify[bot]: Backport conflict, please reslove the conflict and resubmit the pr