apacheGH-44342: [C++] Disable jemalloc by default on ARM

jemalloc may have a problem on ARM.
See also: jemalloc/jemalloc#467

cpp/cmake_modules/DefineOptions.cmake

@@ -364,14 +364,18 @@ takes precedence over ccache if a storage backend is configured" ON)
 
   set(ARROW_JEMALLOC_DESCRIPTION "Build the Arrow jemalloc-based allocator")
   if(WIN32
-     OR "${CMAKE_SYSTEM_NAME}" STREQUAL "FreeBSD"
+     OR CMAKE_SYSTEM_NAME STREQUAL "FreeBSD"
+     OR CMAKE_SYSTEM_PROCESSOR MATCHES "aarch|ARM|arm"
      OR NOT ARROW_ENABLE_THREADING)
     # jemalloc is not supported on Windows.
     #
     # jemalloc is the default malloc implementation on FreeBSD and can't
     # be built with --disable-libdl on FreeBSD. Because lazy-lock feature
     # is required on FreeBSD. Lazy-lock feature requires libdl.
     #
+    # jemalloc may have a problem on ARM.
+    # See also: https://github.com/jemalloc/jemalloc/issues/467
+    #
     # jemalloc requires thread.
     define_option(ARROW_JEMALLOC ${ARROW_JEMALLOC_DESCRIPTION} OFF)
   else()