Add support for head_dim > 128

[cyanguwa]

Description

This PR adds support for head_dim > 128 on all architectures for fprop, in cuDNN 9.10.

Type of change

• Documentation change (change only to the documentation, either a fix or a new content)
• Bug fix (non-breaking change which fixes an issue)
• New feature (non-breaking change which adds functionality)
• Breaking change (fix or feature that would cause existing functionality to not work as expected)
• Infra/Build change
• Code refactoring

Changes

Please list the changes introduced in this PR:

• Add is_training to nvte_get_fused_attn_backend
• Add head_dim > 128 support

Checklist:

• I have read and followed the contributing guidelines
• The functionality is complete
• I have commented my code, particularly in hard-to-understand areas
• I have made corresponding changes to the documentation
• My changes generate no new warnings
• I have added tests that prove my fix is effective or that my feature works
• New and existing unit tests pass locally with my changes

[cyanguwa]

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