diff --git a/src/psygnal/_evented_model_v1.py b/src/psygnal/_evented_model_v1.py
index e6d620a7..f08fc12a 100644
--- a/src/psygnal/_evented_model_v1.py
+++ b/src/psygnal/_evented_model_v1.py
@@ -433,7 +433,7 @@ def update(self, values: Union["EventedModel", dict], recurse: bool = True) -> N
         if not isinstance(values, dict):  # pragma: no cover
             raise TypeError(f"values must be a dict or BaseModel. got {type(values)}")
 
-        with self.events.all.paused():  # TODO: reduce?
+        with self.events._psygnal_relay.paused():  # TODO: reduce?
             for key, value in values.items():
                 field = getattr(self, key)
                 if isinstance(field, EventedModel) and recurse:
diff --git a/src/psygnal/_evented_model_v2.py b/src/psygnal/_evented_model_v2.py
index f1aa4245..a007c6fb 100644
--- a/src/psygnal/_evented_model_v2.py
+++ b/src/psygnal/_evented_model_v2.py
@@ -419,7 +419,7 @@ def update(self, values: Union["EventedModel", dict], recurse: bool = True) -> N
         if not isinstance(values, dict):  # pragma: no cover
             raise TypeError(f"values must be a dict or BaseModel. got {type(values)}")
 
-        with self.events.all.paused():  # TODO: reduce?
+        with self.events._psygnal_relay.paused():  # TODO: reduce?
             for key, value in values.items():
                 field = getattr(self, key)
                 if isinstance(field, EventedModel) and recurse: