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"sid": "agsard",
"link": "/r/CollegeMajors/comments/agsard/should_i_continue_college_and_research_majors_or/",
"title:": "Should I continue college and research majors or drop out entirely?",
"text": "I've posted similar things in other places online, but I don't know what to do anymore. I'm currently in my first year (second semester), and I don't know what career I want to pursue in life, I don't think I'm ready to declare a major right now, I don't know if I'm even taking the right courses, I have no interests in any majors/careers, I'm just totally lost and all over the place. I want to give up entirely on everything. I need to find a major immediately or else I'll drop out.\n\nThis semester started a week or two ago and I'm not enjoying any of my classes. I hate them and I'm just wasting time on them. Other classes are already locked, and I was waitlisted for 3 classes the time I signed up, because I signed up later. I did this on purpose, because everything was useless to me.\n\nI don't have anyone to talk with and my family just tells me to major in whatever I like. They don't exactly know what's going with me. I don't like anything that's offered in college. I'm becoming very paranoid and frustrated. \n\nNot good at anything non-academic things either. I don't know what I'm good at. Doing nothing is what I am good at. If I drop out of college, I would probably waste my time doing nothing in my bedroom at home. That's what I do after my classes end. My family doesn't want me to drop out.\n\nI'm done with everything. I either have to complain about this on the Internet again and again or just go to advising office hours/career services and receive little to no help about my situation.\n\nThis sounds like I'm exaggerating a lot, but I'm very serious and telling the truth.",
"author": "-Sky_Nova_20-",
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"ehrzofg": {
"link": "/r/CollegeMajors/comments/agsard/should_i_continue_college_and_research_majors_or/ehrzofg/",
"text": "Hey, it seems like you\u2019re going through some tough things in life and might be a bit depressed. That\u2019s totally normal, and being in school without direction can definitely complicate things (if that\u2019s what\u2019s going on with you at all \u2014 I don\u2019t mean to project too much). \n\nI\u2019ve felt some of those things before, and have found that talking with a therapist has helped me a lot. I\u2019ve also grown remarkably through the use of cognitive/behavioral therapies \u2014 Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy. \n\nThere\u2019s a bunch of them out there, and there are books and online resources that you can use to guide yourself if seeing a specialist is financially or logistically difficult/impossible. \n\nMy favorite at this stage is REBT, which focuses on how our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are like one big system and each of them has an effect on the other two. It\u2019s helped me personally make a lot of progress with my own mental illness and addictions, and has led me towards academic achievement I never thought I\u2019d be capable of. Now when I get depressed, it\u2019s a lot less severe because I know how to bring myself up out of it (if I\u2019m willing to do the work). \n\nBut you don\u2019t need to be sick for these things to help. Anyone can benefit from them, no matter how big or small their problems may be. \n\nA great book I\u2019d recommend is [How to Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Miserable about Anything \u2014 Yes Anything!](https://www.amazon.com/Stubbornly-Yourself-Miserable-Anything-Yes-Anything/dp/0806538058) by Albert Ellis, PhD. I know the title sounds hokey but it\u2019s scientifically sound and really well written. \n\nAnyway, if any of this sounds relevant for you, maybe consider doing a little research on those behavioral therapies. They might help you feel a bit better and harness some more direction. You have a lot more power and agency than you may realize. \n\nAnd from my personal experience, I had to forge my own interest in what I wanted to do with my life. I didn\u2019t give a shit about anything in college at first aside from a career that paid well. Before even deciding I wanted a high salary, I had often felt like there was no hope and I had no future. I couldn\u2019t see the point to anything and barely cared about being alive. But now I am really passionate about my studies, and while I am preparing myself for a bunch of bullshit in my field that I do not/will not enjoy, I am enthusiastic about starting my career. \n\nI first started college 10 years ago and stopped and started again a few times. You could say I\u2019m a late bloomer. \n\nSome of the periods in between were full of drug use and reckless behavior and unemployment. Turns out I had an undiagnosed mental illness. \n\nBefore finding that out though I had to make the determination to forge a path and force myself to take interest in something even when I couldn\u2019t see the point. I think of it now like exercising a muscle \u2014 if you do it enough it becomes habit and you see the payoff, if you don\u2019t, you might start to feel weak and sick. \n\nI still have to push through some of this stuff now, but I have really come a long way. \n\nI hope you can find anything in what I\u2019m saying helpful, but if not I\u2019m sorry that I missed the mark. I wish you luck in figuring out how you want to proceed. Every day is an opportunity. Some things may be out of your control, but it\u2019s how you respond to those events that shapes how you feel and what you do. ",
"author": "frequent_modulation",
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"eef8zzf": {
"link": "/r/CollegeMajors/comments/agsard/should_i_continue_college_and_research_majors_or/eef8zzf/",
"text": "It sounds like you don't want anything at all, so I think the problem is less about majors and more about you. You need to seriously think about what you want from life. I don't mean this in a mean way.\n\nOP, make some friends this semester. Try new things. Force yourself outside of the comfort zone of your room.",
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"text": "I feel like an idiot if I ever talk to someone.\n\nIf I ever make friends, I will only view them as acquaintances, instead of friends. I don't even know what to tell anyone in the first place. Not even hi, hello, or good bye. I've never really been close with anyone. I try to meet someone for a couple of days, and then I never see them again. I had classmates that always picked on me, until I attended college. I literally just ignored everyone, so I just intentionally avoid finding friends. I don't even like talking to family, and I can't move out of my house, because they'll get worried and crazy if I leave without their permission. They believe that I'm not capable enough to take care of myself. If I ever leave, they will call me, but if I don't pick the phone up, they will call the police immediately. They also believe that what has worked before, will always work later on. I believe every day is the same. Yesterday, today, tomorrow, are all the same to me. There's literally nothing new happening here, but then again, I rarely try new things, but also ignore the old ones.",
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"text": "I don't even exercise at all, yet I'm becoming thinner each day. I don't really eat that much, either. I've been accessing the Internet on my phone for a while now, because I didn't have access to a computer, until my family bought a laptop for college stuff. Plus forums are the only social media I use. I've joined them since 2012-2013, and barely had connection outside the Internet, but then again, connections on the Internet are similar to the ones in real life. Horrendously awful. So, I ended up just posting things, acting like I'm talking to myself (I do this in real life as well).\n\nI honestly don't see the point of coding. I've done some of it before, but I'm very slow with it, so in order to make things faster, I'll just copy/paste all the coding stuff. I thought it was going to be interesting, because it was computer stuff, but then it turned out to be pointless, difficult, and a waste of time. I've heard that people in CS (heard there is more than coding) tend to have a higher salary with a bachelor's degree, I've heard things where people join in a coding bootcamp or whatever it is called. The market is also becoming oversaturated lately and I hate when things are overrated.",
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"eeetnf4": {
"link": "/r/CollegeMajors/comments/agsard/should_i_continue_college_and_research_majors_or/eeetnf4/",
"text": "I'm replying to each paragraph, so that's why I'm separating into 1, 2, and 3.\n\n1. To be honest, I don't even know what I'm going to do tomorrow, let alone in 10 years. I don't even know where I'll be at in 10 years. I don't even know if I'm ever going to finish college at all. If I get to my third year (around 60 credits) and still have not declared a major yet, what's the point of even continuing college? I just believe that I'm wasting my time taking the classes I'm currently taking. I always say this: \"Things I NEVER want in life: living with my family, having friends, a college degree, education, a minimum wage job, joining the military, marriage, having children, having a hobby/interest, a house/apartment.\" I don't know why, but I keep having this mentality every day. I even wonder why money exists and why we can't get everything for free. Because of all of this, I want to give up on everything and instead enjoy myself hating everything as always.\n2. There are other people who are in different majors and still can't get jobs. I don't know if I have to follow my passion, follow the money, follow what others say, or follow anything else. I couldn't even get into entry-level jobs at all. I've had interviews and didn't even get a call back and then a couple months later, they tell me that I got rejected. I do nothing after that, and accept the fact that it happened. \"It is what it is\" is definitely a true perspective of life. Life has no meaning, because meaning is subjective, to the point where it doesn't exist at all. As for lower and upper division courses, lower division courses are very boring, while upper division may be extremely difficult, to the point where I don't want to go to college anymore, even if I haven't taken any upper division classes yet.\n3. Well, I don't know much about any degree at all. Should I just choose a major for the sake of having to choose a major, even if I don't know anything about it or have no interest in the major whatsoever? How about that? I am currently taking classes that I took previously in the fall semester, but there are the next step of those previous courses (plus a new gen ed course). I tried to take different courses, but they were all full and I couldn't do anything anymore, other than signing up for the same courses. Nothing else fitted in my schedule, either. I still don't know what to do anymore.",
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"ee8ohrn": {
"link": "/r/CollegeMajors/comments/agsard/should_i_continue_college_and_research_majors_or/ee8ohrn/",
"text": "I know you said you have no interest in any major and career, but what kind of interests do you have outside of school? What gets you excited about the world/life in general? It's really best to start from there. You don't want to major in something that you'll dread learning about. You'll be miserable. Personally, I love politics, history, and true crime. I get excited about those kinds of things in life. Those interests and excitement led me to become a Political Science major. I went through all kinds of majors such as Journalism, Marketing, Film, and I even thought about Biology. I know how frustrating it can be. ",
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"text": "Outside of school? Nothing. I just go on the Internet and post a bunch of random stuff. As a kid, I played games and watched videos online, but when I started high school, I avoided those altogether and didn't like the idea of them whatsoever. They're overrated. I'm also not even aware on what's going on in the world, unless I notice someone mentioning something and if I ever mention that as well, everyone else will say \"Why are people keep saying the exact thing everytime? The thing is dead now.\" If I ever try to practice something new, everyone will say \"What is the dude even doing?\" I don't answer anything, I just move on and don't care about anything.",
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"ee8t4hl": {
"link": "/r/CollegeMajors/comments/agsard/should_i_continue_college_and_research_majors_or/ee8t4hl/",
"text": "What do you do on the internet and what do post? You have interests, and they\u2019re likely in what you\u2019re doing online, otherwise you wouldn\u2019t be doing them in the first place in your downtime. Do watch television, movies, or read things on the internet? ",
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"text": "I've mostly been posting college stuff in Reddit lately. I also keep saying that I hate everything in a variety of forums I've joined in, just because I literally do hate everything. The interests I had back then are no longer there, because they have become overwhelming for me, and they aren't interests that I want to focus on in the future. I only read stupid stuff that's posted on the Internet, and I'm getting tired of them. I don't really watch television at all, I don't own a DVD/CD to watch movies or play video games (never had a console), but I don't like these stuff either. They're just plain dumb and boring.",
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