Even more improvements in memory utilization HashAggregationExec when spilling

[milenkovicm]

Is your feature request related to a problem or challenge?

This task is related to #7858, to follow up with some issues we've found with HashAggregationExec.

Specific issue we found is that during spill HashAggregationExec will sort and spill aggregation buffer, while sorting it will allocate buffer as big as current aggregation state

https://github.com/apache/arrow-datafusion/blob/7acd8833cc5d03ba7643d4ae424553c7681ccce8/datafusion/physical-plan/src/aggregates/row_hash.rs#L672

This will make operator using (twice) more memory than already allocated by the memory manager.

We need to find a solution which would respect allocated memory limit

Some ides can be find in the #7858, more specific in comments:

• Improvements in HashAggregationExec when spilling #7858 (comment)
• Improvements in HashAggregationExec when spilling #7858 (comment)
• Improvements in HashAggregationExec when spilling #7858 (comment)

but we are open for other ideas as well

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